Tantric sex is something that piques the interest of many people. Even the word “Tantra” by itself is often associated with sexual topics, giving it a sense of mystery and eroticism.
Due to a natural curiosity about sex and a certain fascination toward all things tantric, people tend to make assumptions about courses containing the word “Tantra” in their titles. Often, they build up expectations based entirely on misconceptions. We applaud a healthy curiosity about sexuality – it can lead you to discover amazing sexual and spiritual experiences like you never imagined. However, here are five important things to know about tantric sex before you decide to join a course or retreat.
Tantric sex is derived from the tantric masters and ancient tantric teachings of India, which presented a unique view on and practice of sex and sexuality.
The tantric approach to sexuality incorporates the use and control of energy as well as the cultivation of transcendent states of consciousness. To the tantrics, sexuality and spirituality are not at odds with each other but, in fact, are essentially one and the same. A couple’s lovemaking is the physical manifestation of the divine union with God, or the Supreme Consciousness. The teachings themselves provide a map for serious practitioners to learn how to harness and propagate the sexual energy to reach unprecedented spiritual heights.
The tantric sexual principles are referenced in texts written thousands of years ago, demonstrating clearly that this is not a new-age, kinky invention. They have deep spiritual roots, represent tested practices, and hold profound meanings that should not be ignored.
Tantric sex is believed to be the essence of all tantric teachings, but this is a mistaken view. Tantric sex is only one of the magical and mysterious branches of the larger system of Tantra. If we represent Tantra as a whole pie with eight slices, then tantric sex is merely one slice. Tantra is not sex, but rather a comprehensive system of spiritual knowledge for the purpose of human and soul evolution.
A few remarkable characteristics distinguish tantric sex from ordinary sex. These five principles are considered tantric sex fundamentals and are the basis of the teachings.
To the modern mind, it may be difficult to grasp any connection between sex and spirituality. At face value these two concepts appear to be an odd couple – oxymoronic and even at opposite ends of the spectrum of life. However, tantric sex bridges this gap and a deeper look into its ancient heritage reveals that it is far more than just a provocative tool to spice up your sex life. The sexual energy, if harnessed and propagated correctly, can transform a human being from the inside out and provide a tangible gateway to connect and communicate directly with the Divine.
As mentioned, Tantra is a comprehensive spiritual system that is rooted in energy. It is the science and study of energy, put simply. Therefore, every single branch under the tantric umbrella has energy at its basis, including tantric sex. Tantric sex opens your heart and mind to an untapped and rare sexual dimension, and the use of energy is key to reaching it.
There is a saying that if you don’t control your mind, your mind will control you. It is the same with the sexual energy. This energy in particular is a powerful and mighty force that is used to running amok and behaving in any way it pleases. The sexual energy, in fact, is a major unconscious driving force for most of our actions, emotions, and behaviors in daily life.In order to reach tantric dimensions in sex you must learn how to master energy. The sexual energy must be understood, controlled, directed, and ultimately mastered. It is here that this phenomenal innate force of nature propels you to achieve extraordinary things in life, and you are no longer a slave to it.
Becoming a tantric lover is not only about lovemaking and the physical acts of sex. You need to unlearn some old habits and adopt new techniques. It is vital to understand the principles of how sexual energy works, both in men and women, and to learn to control this energy first in yourself, and then eventually, in practice with your partner. That is when the real magic happens. As with any skill worth learning, becoming a skilled tantric lover takes time, practice, and patience.
Tantric sex has become a household expression lately. To appeal to the masses, many of the core principles that make tantric sex, well, tantric, have been diluted or dismissed altogether. There are many misconceptions around tantric sex. What you end up with nowadays is a watered-down version that focuses on superficial techniques and kinky sex positions, with zero mention of spirituality or energy. If authentic teachings are involved it will always elevate a practitioner to a higher level of being – more detached, wise, and devotional – and will inspire a more panoramic perspective on love and life. Look for teachings and teachers that align with a traditional lineage and follow original teachings over the modern, self-styled adaptations of those who claim to have improved on age-old and proven traditions.
Now that you know more about what to look for – and what to ignore – in the Tantra teachers you choose, we hope your discrimination will lead you directly to the authentic, valuable teachings that change lives!
While one of the best ways to comprehensively learn tantric sexual knowledge, techniques, and rituals is through attending an intensive training, here are some simple yet beautiful steps you can take today to infuse your sexual experiences with tantric principles.
Prepare a sacred space by lighting candles, using incense, dimming the lights, and playing soft background music that resonates with the heart chakra.
If you have previously attended our courses or retreats and are familiar with tantric meditation techniques such as Laya Yoga using the Shiva mantra, meditate for 15 minutes using this technique.
Tantric sex is one of the tantric paths that lead toward spiritual illumination. In the ancient times of India, tantric masters and enlightened gurus used sexuality for sincere spiritual purposes. By utilizing the sexual energy in a specific way, they were able to generate an elongated orgasmic state and thereby an enlightened state, while riding continuous waves of bliss and ecstasy. They used this energetic force found in the manifested world – the sexual energy – to reach unmanifested spiritual dimensions that most only dream about.
Here’s an analogy: Normally, we human beings utilize only about 3%-5% of our brain’s potential. Imagine if you had the practical knowledge and techniques to begin to utilize 30%, 50%, or even 80% of your brain’s capacity? Your whole life would change completely. It is the same with sexuality. Today, modern people only tap into about 5%-10% of their true, innate sexual potential. Tantric sex is the means to access 30%-80% or even more of this potential – that is how powerful it can be. It has the capacity to shift your mind, your body, your spirit, and your life completely!
We at Somananda Tantra School believe in the importance of not only having access to authentic tantric teachings, but also in verifying correct practice in order to ensure success. Our Spiritual Tantra Sexuality retreat provides a powerful opportunity to transform yourself into a true tantric man or woman using the clear techniques presented, expert guidance, and in-depth practical knowledge.
Luckily, these sacred practices are not reserved for the spiritual elite only! We are waiting to meet you and share these remarkable teachings with you.
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