Tantric Yoni Massage can shape and even reshape a woman’s life in many ways. Besides helping her to find spiritual clarity, it can have a massive healing effect on the body as well as provide a natural antidote to a variety of common women’s health problems and sexual dysfunctions. It is renowned for eradicating blockages of all kinds, including physical, mental, emotional, energetic and sexual.
Unfortunately, such benefits are often overlooked and understudied in many neo-Tantra offerings of today and this remarkable massage modality is reduced to a basic erotic massage for women.
In this article, however, I aim to reveal this life-changing practice as the magical, mysterious, and spiritual experience it can and should truly be!
Simply put, tantric philosophy explains the construct of the universe according to the principles of duality or polarity, where there exists a manifested aspect and an unmanifested aspect. All of reality can be explained and defined according to these two aspects.
In Tantra all that is manifested is known as Shakti, the universal energy or divine feminine creative power. Everything that is a manifested element in this reality emanates from the Shakti, or feminine principle. It is the energy of action, power, creation, and life force. This aspect resonates with the feminine principle, the characteristic of yin, or the minus (-) polarity, as we see with a battery.
By contrast, the unmanifested is known as the Shiva consciousness and resonates with the masculine principle, the concept of yang, or the plus (+) polarity.
It is important to understand that the feminine and masculine principles far surpass and exceed our basic understanding of women and men. In fact, all living matter reflects a combination of both feminine and masculine principles. A woman embodies both the feminine aspect and the masculine aspect and the same goes for a man, who also embodies both masculine and feminine – as difficult as it may be to conceptualize – because he is a manifested, energetic being. However, being born into the body of a woman with its accompanying physiology, biology, and psychology – which differ greatly from a man’s – means that a woman more closely and easily resonates and vibrates with the Shakti, feminine, goddess essence.
Tantra thus considers women to be natural born tantrics. As Tantra, at its basis, is the science and study of energy, or Shakti, it recognizes that all of reality is made up of Shakti and realizes that there is great power in this energetic force. A woman by virtue of her physical structure is simply more innately connected to the universal Shakti. Said another way, the microcosmic version of Shakti is a woman and the macrocosmic version of Shakti is the universe and all of creation. This means that a woman in and of herself is a nuclear and energetic force with vast and unimaginable potential! Tantra worships Shakti, and to that end, it employs specific techniques and technology to activate, control, modulate, and harness the Shakti energy that is both in us and all around us.
Yoni is a Sanskrit word that refers to the female genitalia. It is the word tantrics use to refer to the vagina. The female genitalia are indeed a part of a woman’s body that she should not neglect or ignore for many reasons – some more obvious than others.
For one, the yoni is a powerhouse and the home where a very potent and powerful, latent energy dwells. Because most modern-day women are unfamiliar with tantric practices, this energy lays dormant and stagnant as mere untapped potential.
Secondly, the yoni is also a storehouse. Stress, emotions, fear, worry, hardships, and traumas tend to accumulate at the level of the yoni in women. Due to its internal structure, women tend to internalize much of their outer world in their inner world, their yoni-verse. It should come as no surprise that eventually, such heavy factors layer up in the yoni, causing impediments to pleasure and the full experience of energy – blockages – and other common female health issues.
The third reason women should not ignore their yonis is because, simply, it is their pleasure and healing center. However, in order to access this domain, one must first tap into the yoni’s inherent energy and heal the aforementioned blockages.
Tantric Yoni Massage, when done correctly, addresses all of this, plus much more.
In modern times everyone has blockages. They are equally prevalent in men as in women. However, for women, blockages tend to accumulate more often than not in the yoni. This is the reason why Tantra Massage includes genital massage, or more specifically, Tantric Yoni Massage. It is not for the purpose of eroticism or lewd activities. It is solely for healing and spiritual purposes. Even so, the effects and results of this practice are not one-dimensional. In fact, they are multidimensional and far-reaching. So, while the aims of Tantric Yoni Massage lie in the healing and spiritual realms, the benefits extend into every single aspect of a woman’s life and can transform her sexually, emotionally, mentally, and energetically as well.
Blockages can originate from various sources such as childhood memories or traumas, one’s upbringing, injuries, surgeries, ignored and stored emotions, stress, health problems, physical or sexual abuse, long-term unhappy relationships, childbirth, disease, toxins and impurities, karma, and past lives, just to name a few. They can be physical, energetic, emotional, mental, sexual, or even psychosomatic in nature, and the root cause can vary from one individual to another.
A blockage can be compared to a virus that runs in the background of a computer. There is often no evidence that it is present, and yet it wreaks havoc in subtle, unsuspecting ways on the operating system. In this example, the operating system is a metaphor for the subconscious mind. Blockages feed information to our subconscious minds which then dictate our conscious and outward actions and behaviors.
How exactly a blockage manifests can vary from person to person. It can show up on the physical level as a disease, illness, or pain in the body, for example. Emotionally a person with a blockage may be prone to depression, crying, erratic emotions, difficulty in loving or feeling loved, trust problems, fear without basis, anxiety, and emotional overwhelm. On the mental level blockages can appear as mental disturbances or disorders, chaotic thoughts, or the inability to concentrate. Sexual dysfunctions such as frigidity, erectile dysfunction, or diseases of the sexual organs are often signs that a sexual blockage is present. Energetic blockages generally appear at the level of the chakras, or the energy centers of the human being. This is by no means an exhaustive list, but it can provide some insight into how imperceptible blockages may present themselves on the different levels of a human being.
Because the exact origin of a blockage cannot always be determined, it is crucial that they are released in a carefully managed and mindful way. A skilled therapist is essential to the process, and his or her proper training is key.
Hysterical and uncontrollable releases or releases that are of a sizable nature can be more harmful than helpful and can further embed the blockage into a woman’s body. When the release is by harmonious and gradual means, it can be incredibly liberating and healing. A woman can experience a remodeling or restructuring of her entire being and may immediately feel a sense of relief, joy, and contentment.
It is important to understand that Tantric Yoni Massage is just one part of a whole-body experience. It is vital that a trained therapist prepares a woman physically, emotionally, and energetically before massaging the yoni itself. This is done by massaging the whole body, from head to toe, in a precise and specific way and by incorporating energy into the practice.
A woman needs first to be brought to a state of physical relaxation, which can take some time. A typical Tantra Massage session can be anywhere from 1.5-2.5 hours in duration, which provides ample time to bring a state of calmness to a woman’s mind, body, and spirit. In this condition she is more open to receive and more prepared to release any blockages, stress, and stuck emotions. Relaxation also activates the parasympathetic nervous system, bringing the body to the only state that can trigger a cascade of healing mechanisms and effects.
Next, a woman needs to feel emotionally safe and secure so that the yoni exploration is comfortable, which in turn allows her to surrender to the process. In this state a woman allows the energy to germinate like a sprout, growing and developing to ultimately free herself of traumas or baggage that no longer serve her. Trust needs to be established between the therapist and client and an emotional connection created. Starting with the less intimate parts of the body and addressing the body as a whole creates the soil for such necessities to take root before the yoni is massaged.
Energetically a woman needs to be primed. The basis of all Tantra Massage practices, including Tantric Yoni Massage, should be energy, which is at the forefront of this practice. A skilled therapist activates and harnesses the innate life force within a woman and facilitates its movement in a certain way. Before the energy can be awakened and moved, the energetic channels need to be cleared and opened. Since subtle energetic channels pervade our entire being it is essential that energy work is performed throughout the entire body. A series of techniques combined with pressure point activation prime a woman energetically to assimilate the effects of the massage.
Once these crucial steps have been achieved a woman is ready to receive Tantric Yoni Massage.
Tantric Yoni Massage acts as a gateway between an ordinary life and an extraordinary life, ordinary sex and extraordinary sex, and being an ordinary woman and a tantric woman!
How is the yoni massaged and released, you might ask? This is difficult to describe in definitive terms simply because of the diverse methodologies and philosophies that exist on the topic. If you had a treatment from five different massage therapists you would have variable and distinctive experiences based on each therapist’s training, background, and experience. It is no different with Tantric Yoni Massage. The experience will vary from practitioner to practitioner.
However, here are the states and steps that a woman can generally expect when an expert and skilled therapist is involved:
There are many things a woman could and should do before receiving a Tantra Massage, inclusive of Tantric Yoni Massage, in order to prepare herself and provide an optimal landscape for powerful effects to take place.
Here are a few recommendations for how you can get the most out of your session:
Prior to your first appointment it is recommended to have a discussion with your therapist. Be as open, candid, and honest as you can be about your health history, past traumas, perceived blockages, goals of a session, and any other pertinent information. The more details you can provide to your therapist the better he or she will be able to discern whether Tantric Yoni Massage is a good fit for you. In some cases, more time and preparation are needed before a session is scheduled.
A short discussion on the day of your scheduled appointment is also helpful. This is to help create a connection point between yourself and your therapist and also to share what you hope to achieve in that particular session, as this can change from session to session.
It is helpful for the subconscious mind if you take a moment to reflect on why you were originally drawn to Tantric Yoni Massage. What sort of outcome do you hope for? Are there specific issues you wish to alleviate from your mind, body, and spirit? Are there blockages you are aware of that you would like to focus on? Being clear and setting intentions is a powerful way to manifest the results you desire.
You can also share these intentions with your therapist and he or she can partner with you in helping you to achieve a desired outcome by customizing and individualizing your sessions appropriately.
Equally important in the intention-setting process, however, is letting go of expectations as well. Grasping onto expectations, timelines, and anticipated results can hinder the effects from taking root and can become a blockage in and of itself. So, while setting intentions is a powerful tool once you are clear on your goals and wishes, surrender these intentions to something higher than yourself and trust that everything that unfolds is divinely guided.
Prior to receiving yoni massage your therapist should have provided a full-body massage experience to help you relax and to prepare you physically, mentally, emotionally, energetically, and spiritually. The serene atmosphere and the massage itself should lull you into a more calm, detached, and liberated place.
As a receiver you can also take simple steps to induce deeper relaxation as well, such as:
It is recommended to ask your therapist to let you know when he or she is coming close to giving the yoni massage. In that moment honestly evaluate yourself and discern whether you feel comfortable, relaxed, and truly open to receive. If the answer is yes, ask your therapist to proceed. In some cases, more time and preparation may be needed, or you may choose to focus on whole-body work and energy movement instead. If this is the case do not be shy about expressing yourself and let your therapist know exactly what you need. Additional sessions may be required before you are ready for Tantric Yoni Massage. This can be especially true for women who have experienced trauma or sexual abuse in their lives.
The yoni massage is executed in a series of steps:
The therapeutic session concludes with a final relaxation exercise and a circulation of energy. The woman is left feeling energized and harmonized with an overall sense of well-being.
For the many women who suffer from common female health issues such as cystitis, severe menstrual symptoms, regular candida or bacterial vaginosis, endometriosis, and/or sexual hindrances such as lack of desire, an inability to experience pleasure or orgasm, or painful sex, Tantric Yoni Massage is the answer.
This unique, hands-on approach heals a woman from the inside out, getting to the root of many health issues and sexual blockages. Not only is there an alleviation of symptoms but there is a discernible newfound freedom whereby women can reclaim their health and rediscover the true meaning of sexual liberation.
So far, we have learned that Tantric Yoni Massage cannot only heal common health issues and eradicate various blockages, but it can also unleash unrealized power. And here is where it becomes unrivaled in a class of its own: Tantric Yoni Massage acts as a gateway between an ordinary life and an extraordinary life, ordinary sex and extraordinary sex, and being an ordinary woman and a tantric woman! A woman’s entire being can be remodeled through this practice and, as a result, the “promised land” of deep, fulfilling sexual pleasure and intimacy most just dream of becomes not only accessible, but a living reality. It is truly a woman’s true liberation!
With its focus on awakening energy within the yoni through specialized touch, Tantric Yoni Massage – when practiced with skillful care and attention – has a multitude of effects. It:
Experiencing this wondrous and inspiring bodywork is a rare opportunity for all women to reach deep and satisfying fulfillment in love and life. Many women report a soul-opening bliss and feminine blossoming that transforms their lives dramatically.
Start by doing an online search for a Tantra Massage therapist in your area. Screen candidates thoroughly before agreeing to book a session. Read their websites and pay attention to the verbiage they use when describing their treatment and their depictions of Tantra Massage or Tantric Yoni Massage. Ideally, they are promoting the health and healing effects of this modality. If there is a strong emphasis on the sexual benefits or orgasms, and no mention of the use of energy, then chances are they are not a well-trained therapist who can provide you with the benefits and results that have thus far been detailed in this article.
You can learn how to give Tantric Yoni Massage by becoming a Tantra Massage Therapist. We offer an intensive 10-day Tantra Massage Therapist Training where you will learn the skills necessary to harmoniously, safely, and effectively offer Tantric Yoni Massage and Tantric Lingam Massage (the male equivalent to yoni massage). This is our most comprehensive Tantra Massage course where you will learn the first steps in energy mastery.
It is certainly possible to give yourself a yoni massage, however, it is best to do so after experiencing an authentic session from a skilled therapist first.
For a self-massage practice, you would more or less focus on the same steps that are listed above. First enter into a state of relaxation. Next, massage the outer yoni and groin area gently. Then, slowly enter the yoni with one or two fingers and began slowly massaging the G-spot in a circular motion. After you can begin mapping your yoni and try to enliven all areas through touch.
It is important to note this self-treatment has its limitations and is not equal to receiving a full Tantra Massage session by a trustworthy and trained practitioner. It can still be beneficial as a self-love practice and a way to become more in tune with your internal yoni structure and pleasure centers. But it is difficult to execute the proper techniques while also releasing blockages and focusing on the energy.
Coconut oil, grapeseed oil, apricot oil, and sweet almond oil are just a few recommended oils for Tantric Yoni Massage. However, any natural seed or nut oil can also be used. Every oil carries with it its own unique qualities and benefits. Test different oils and see what works best with your skin type and sensitivity level. It is best to avoid synthetic or petroleum-based oils such as mineral oils. For highly sensitive individuals a water-based lubricant can be used.
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