The Truth About Tantric Relationships

Posted August 3, 2017

When people think of a “tantric relationship,” the first thing that often comes to mind has to do with erotic or sensual themes. This is not an altogether wrong connection to make, but there is much more to it!

What truly makes a tantric relationship and how should one start down this road?

A tantric relationship is a journey

The aim of tantric relationships is ultimately the spiritual evolution of both partners. Such a partnership is therefore devoted to development and maturation on a spiritual level. But what does that mean exactly?

First and foremost, both partners must have the desire to develop their relationship as individuals and as a couple.
Learning about Tantra as a whole is crucial. There must be a mutual interest to dig deeper into the authentic teachings with a common and shared goal
Applying the tantric teachings is necessary. Practicing regularly (both solo and together) as well as taking everyday steps toward evolution through Yoga and meditation is the only way to make sincere progress on the path.

To become a genuine tantric couple, a devotional attitude is necessary. You should be willing to devote yourself to your personal evolution and the spiritual growth of the partnership and to couple this with a pledge to the path and teachings. Authentic tantric relationships require more than just a simple title or label; the partners need to commit to become practitioners of Tantra, whereby they live and breathe the teachings in life and in love. With such an approach, the extraordinarily rewarding potential of Tantra is revealed.

What about love and sexuality?

Stereotypically, tantric relationships involve polyamorous love and sexual liberty. While an exploration of the sexuality is definitely an aspect of the tantric teachings, these others do not represent a prerequisite for cultivating a tantric relationship. All that is required are two consenting partners and a willingness to see the broader perspectives.

The real “magic” of tantric relationships lies in true love. In a society where jealousy is encouraged as a justification for love and is even considered acceptable, Tantra teaches us that this is actually the opposite of love and is, in fact, an impurity at the level of the mind. Imagine being free from insecurities and external issues that affect your relationship as well as loving your partner unconditionally for the rest of your life. This is truly the emotional promise of Tantra.

There is a lot more to a tantric relationship than you think

The cornerstone of genuine tantric relationships is true love, and Tantra can take you there. It is not something that is immediately acquired but with practice and dedication you will discover unconditional love, for yourself and for your partner. You will build your love muscle until you realize love is your natural state.

Liisa Maimon

Liisa is an experienced Tantra and Yoga teacher of Somananda Tantra School. She is inspired by the life changing power of these spiritual teachings and passes them on with great enthusiasm and love.